Pop music trend 1-18-09

I've noticed a trend in pop music. Recently there have been a lot angry songs.
I've listened to at least 3 new pop songs in the car today that are about men who are angry at or who feel righteous idignation toward women who did not reciprocate love.

While I've been told that nothing is more painful than unreciprocated love, I also do not comprehend why these new angry songs are coming out. It's OK to be angry. It's not OK to believe that the responsibility for that anger lies in someone else. Ex: Kayne West's new song...

"I aint lovin youThe way i wanted toBut wat i had to do, had to run from youIm in love with you, but the vibe is wrongAnd that haunted me, all the way home
So u never know never never knowNever know enough til its over loveTil we lose control, system overloadScreamin no no no no
I aint lovin youThe way i wanted toSee i wanna moveBut cant escape from youSo i keep it low keep a secret codeSo anybody else dont have to know
So keep your love lockdownYour love lockdown (x3)So keep your love lockdownYou lose
I aint lovin youThe way i wanted toI cant keep my coolSo i keep it trueI guess im to loseSo i gotta moveI cant keep myself & still keep you too
So i keep in mind when im on my ownSomewhere far from homeIn the danger zoneHow many times did i take for it finally got throughYou lose, you lose
I aint lovin youThe way i wanted toSee i had to goSee i had to moveNo more wastin timeWe cant wait for lifeWe're just racin timeWhere's the finish line
So keep your love lockdownYour love lockdown (x3)So keep your love lockdownYou lose
I aint lovin youThe way i wanted to I bet no one knewI got no one newKnow i said im throughBut got love for youBut i aint lovin youThe way i want to
Gotta keep it goin keep the lovin goinKeep it all along?Only god knows if ill be with youBaby im confusedYou choose, you choose
I aint lovin youThe way i wanted toBut i got to goI dont need youIve been on this road too many times beforeI aint lovin you the way i wanted to
So keep your love lockdownYour love lockdown Keepin your love lockdownYour love lockdownKeepin your love lockdownYour love lockdownKeepin your love lockdownYou lose(x2)"

Music is one of the ways people deal with emotions. It is conceivable that this song would encourage men to blame others for their own emotions. This is not good for men. Being able to swallow one's own emotions and deal with them in healthy ways is a right of passage. These lyrics seem to want to place the blame on someone else by saying "You choose". No one can choose his emotions for him. Although he can dilude himself on that for awhile to numb the pain.

I can also see how it could slow down women. As if women didn't have enough guilt issues in a thoroughly misogynistic culture, this song may encourage women to feel guilty in yet another way. Now women get to feel guilty for not giving the men who are "in love with" them what they want (regardless of what that may be). Super.

Let's play devil's advocate and function under the assumption that since this is a form of musical expression, it must have some merit to it. How could the lyrics be interpretted in a positive way? It may be helpful because the singer at least aknowleges that he's not getting his way. But a tantrum is not supposed to last forever. At some point, he's going to have to do more than "move".

He says "I had to move" but in the next breath says "You choose". Now I'm "confused". lol.